Congratulations! Youíre here. So now what? The start of anything new is
accompanied by some excitement, a bit of curiosity and a certain amount of
fear. The exciting thing about this new thing Ė 9 Steps to Your Best Family
- is that you have decided to devote some time to being a better
parent and having a stronger family. I know you are curious about what each
step will entail - who wouldnít want to know whatís around the corner. Itís
probably the fear part that feels the biggest right now.
Letís talk about that fear for a moment. Are you more afraid of the process
or the outcome? Some moms and dads are really worried that going through the
exercises and doing the steps will make them worse parents in the end.
Others are concerned about having to do the exercises in the first place.
ĎWhat if, when Iím done, Iím more messed up than when I started? What if I
donít learn a thing?í
Well, what if you do learn something? Think about this. Even if you only
learn one thing through the whole course, after doing all 9 steps, thatís
one thing more than you know today. And even if you only change one thing in
your family because of the course then your family is assured to live a
There is a scientific fact that if a butterfly flaps itís wings on one side
of the world, the weather on the other side of the world is altered. There
is also a personal development fact that if you only alter one thing about
yourself or your behavior, you are sent on another trajectory path. Learn
one thing. Change one opinion. Do one thing different and your entire life
is profoundly altered.
So instead of thinking about all the steps and exercises you have to do,
think about finding one thing in each step that you can use to change how
you are living right now. Find one small change you can make in your outlook
or opinion. That makes tackling the process easier.
As for who you will be at the end and what your family will look like, I
canít predict. But neither can you. Thatís life though. You canít predict
who youíll be next week even if you donít take the steps. You and your
family change all the time. Who you were last year isnít who you will be
next year. Because each day you gain precious life experience, you change
who you are.
Release your fears of the process and outcome in order to embrace the
potential for yourself and your family.
Take this first step with confidence that you will only discover what you
need to move forward. What you discover is part of being a more effective